Parenting Your Child’s Design
Ramona,
California
Copyright ã 2006
by Michael J. Adams
Published by High-Octane Living
P.O. Box 1875, Ramona, CA 92065
Empowering People to Live
God’s Will in Their Lives.
All rights reserved. No
portion of this book can be used or copied without the prior written permission
of High-Octane Living.
Unless otherwise indicated,
Scripture quotations are taken from the New American Standard Bible (NASB),
ã 1960, 1977, 1995 by the
Lockman Foundation
To
Theresa, the love of my life,
the
mother of our children,
and
my best friend.
!S
So
that we might be like King David who “served the purpose of God in his own
generation” (Acts 13:36)
Table
of Contents
Acknowledgements. 1
Introduction. 3
Chapter 1:
Performance Specifications. 5
Designed to Perform.. 5
Benefits of raising High-Octane children. 11
Their attitude about life is one of purpose. 11
Motivation is built in by God himself. 11
They have focus. 12
They have personal significance. 13
They have more self-confidence. 14
Selecting the right major
in college. 14
The future is one of meaning and fulfillment. 15
Points to Ponder. 18
Chapter 2:
Included Options. 19
How We Are Put Together. 19
Personality. 22
Talents and Strength. 23
Behavioral Traits. 23
The
Clifton StrengthsFinder® Assessment. 27
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator®. 27
The DiSC Classic Profile®. 28
Points to Ponder. 34
Chapter 3:
Take a Test Drive. 35
What We Are Capable Of Doing. 35
The connection between design and performance. 36
Design and Purpose. 37
Living a Life of Meaning. 38
Spotting a Young Childs Profile. 40
Passion as a Direction Finder. 41
Watch for Passion. 43
Understanding strengths, personalities, and traits. 46
Points to Ponder. 50
Chapter 4:
The Owners Manual 51
Understanding How We are Made. 51
The Right Tools for the Job. 53
What you can expect to learn about your child. 54
Understanding what the Tests are all about. 55
General Description of the Myers-Briggs Type
Indicator®. 56
Summary of Personality
Types. 57
General Description of the DiSC Classic
Profile®. 58
Clifton StrengthsFinder® Test. 59
Points to Ponder. 65
Chapter 5:
The Owners Manual 66
Personality and Passion. 66
Seeing passion in our children. 67
Using Passion as a Compass. 68
Factoring in Personality and Strengths. 70
A more complete picture. 71
Passion Gives Direction, Traits Provide Context. 74
Balancing for performance. 75
Avoiding the super hero trap. 77
Setting Expectations. 79
Points to Ponder. 81
Chapter 6:
How We Are Made. 82
Values are Magnetic. 82
High Octane Dot to Dot Development. 84
Spotting the “Dots” in Young Children. 87
Developing Skills. 91
Values Are Your Instrument Panel. 92
Painting a Vision in Your Child’s Heart. 93
A Noble Mission for Jonah. 94
Points to Ponder. 96
Chapter 7:
Under the Hood. 97
The Bible and Who We Are. 97
Completing the Picture. 99
Made in the Image of God. 100
Adopted and Chosen. 100
Members of Christ’s Body. 102
Made with Forethought. 103
Experience and Truth – Trusting the Rule Book. 105
Children are like Arrows. 108
Connecting the Dots for High Octane Kids. 109
Points to Ponder. 110
Chapter 8: A
Journey to Remember. 111
The Child God Created. 111
Reinforcing Traits and Celebrating Differences. 112
The Passions Worksheet. 114
Engage Your Child. 115
Faith, Family and Future. 116
Observation in Younger Years and Testing Teens. 118
Engage Your Child. 119
Beware of the World’s Definition of Success and Failure. 119
Knowledge, Understanding and Wisdom. 120
Encouragement for the Weary. 122
Points to Ponder. 124
Conclusion.. 125
Seven Habits
of High-Octane Parents. 125
Fearfully and Wonderfully Made. 126
How We Are Put Together. 126
What We Are Capable of Doing. 127
Seven Habits to Develop. 127
How We Are Made. 127
Personality and Passion. 127
Develop Your Childs Vision and Values. 128
Knowledge, Understanding and Wisdom.. 129
Talents, personality traits and leadership style. 129
Develop Your Childs “Profile” or
“Blueprint”. 129
Understand God’s Purpose for Your Childs Life. 130
Points to Ponder. 131
Resources. 132
Where to find the tests. 132
Description of the tests. 132
The Clifton StrengthsFinder® Assessment 132
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator®. 133
The DiSC Classic Profile®. 134
Differences between the tests. 135
General Description of the Myers-Briggs Type
Indicator®. 135
Other resources. 136
Web Sites. 136
Books to read. 136
The
Author. 138
